Most house cats crave your love and attention, but they prefer they get it on their terms instead of yours. Once you get to know your cat, you will understand his preferences. Kittens that are socialized between 4 weeks and 12 weeks of age tend to be friendlier than kittens that were isolated from people and cats in their early months. Socializing a kitten involves a variety of people handling him frequently. Isolated kittens will probably grow to be timid cats that become fearful when restrained. Early nutrition can also affect cat behaviour. Kittens from malnourished mothers can be more aggressive to people and other cats. This behavioural trait can last even after the cat grows up and receives proper care.
I guess someone will be wondering why I’m talking about Cats and their characteristics. Well three weeks ago my cousin and I caught a kitten abandoned by her mama after her twin brother died.We named her MITSHELL. The first week was not easy at all. She was hard to catch in the first place, we got a deep box and placed her in it. As a matter of fact, my cousin had to wear an hand glove to catch her. Still in the box, he had to put on the hand gloves again to carry her from the box. He did that because he thought a cat hissing at you is poisonous. At the sound of our voices she quickly runs into hiding and its always a dark place. Cats love warm and dark places. So, i mixed meat and fish and gave her the first and second day but the bound was still missing until the second week. That was when the bound was created. The second week was great we got her real cat food, I got to give her a bath, she runs out of her hiding spot at the sound of our voice for us to pick her up and cuddle her. She jumps on us while we are lying down, she lies on the back or neck of either of us. When she notice we’re about going out, she meows and comes close for us to take her along. It was as if she knew us right from when her mama gave birth to her….
Unfortunately, one thing was missing. Creating a kind of bound that will enable us touch her while giving her a piece of meat or fish. Because presently, if we give her a piece of meat or fish now, she growls at us like (dude, step away or I’m gonna have to use my teeth on you). And we on the other end are saying hold on (don’t be rude, we gave you the meat and we won’t take it back. Just allow us touch you while you eat). Confusion, right? Over here in Africa and Nigeria precisely, cats are not animals to be used as pets and certainly not by young adults. The only people you can see, having cats are grandpa’s and grandma’s. Cats are tagged as mystical creatures specifically used by witches for evil purposes. You can see adults strolling with their various breeds of dogs like Goldador, Rottweiler, Leonberger and others. But it is very rare to see an adult with a cat strolling along the way……..
The reason this whole thought came into my mind is because some of these characteristics exhibited by the cat may be seen in humans. Please don’t get me wrong. I’m not trying to compare humans to cats. It was what God dropped in my heart of what it means to use the foolish things of this world to confound the wise 1 Corinthians 1:27. We crave for Love, but we want it on own terms. We don’t want nobody telling us what to do and how to do it. In reality, that kind of attitude is pride in itself. Your pride could be in the way you deal with people, it could be in the way you use your mouth, it could be in yourself, it could be in your stuffs (cars, houses, clothes). It could even be in the way you worship God with an Holier than thou attitude. We feel insecured and like the kitten , run into our dark places for safety. We take our time to make sure whoever we are gonna attach ourselves to is worth it. Even though we socialize everyday with various people from all works of life, we still set our boundaries because we don’t want to be hurt by no one. We term it as “being careful” but on the contrary it is called “safety zone” which is why we don’t want to move from it. We grew up with various behavioural traits that sometimes seems hard to leave us even when we’re already matured. Some of these traits can be swift anger, hatred, rare ability to love and make sure others don’t know love as well, it could be stinginess but loves eating and receiving from others. You might want to do something unusual, something out of the box, something nobody has ever done before something that’s not common like cats are not common with young adults in Nigeria. But since its not common, you tend to place it on hold. You might even be among those who follow the crowed for what’s up. “You wanna study engineering because your friend wants to, not because it is your passion” You will end up in frustration because you later discovered there’s more to it than just saying it.Like mitshell, people might think you are harmful when you can’t even hurt a thing. It might be that at the appearance of certain people, you shy away and feel worthless. It might even be that people help you to start a business, get a job, take care of your stuffs and now that you’ve made it, you quickly forgot the finger that fed you or neglect the people who helped you to the top.
Most times, this negative attitudes are unconscious to those who exhibit them. One of the major attitude that’s blinded to the one carrying it out is pride. The one involved is not aware that he is proud. It seems normal to him. You hear statements like “this is who I am. It’s my life. I don’t care who is trying to oppose what I want to do, I will do it whether they like it or not. I fear nobody” if you x-ray this statements carefully, there’s always the self-word I and MY, standing out. Pride will never make you admit your wrong because you feel like who I’m I apologizing to, who is worth my apology? And then later, you act like nothing went wrong at all. That’s same attitude cats have, they mess up a place knowing you won’t like it, runs into hiding and comes out later and acting like they never made a mess. Cats always want to be the boss and if you don’t set the boundary, they prevail having their way with everything. Human have this attitude as well especially kids. That’s why Proverbs 22:6 says..”Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he’s old he will not depart from it”. In other words, train up your child in the way you want him to behave, the way you want him to respect, the way you want him to go…not the way the child wants or needs because if you allow a childhave his way, when he is old, he will not depart from the way he created for himself and he will strictly and violently refuse your way.
In conclusion, we may not be cats, but we sure have some attitudes that needs to be tamed and human efforts can’t tame some of these traits. You need the help of the holy spirit to overcome this. In 2 Corinthians 1:3-4, God’s word declaresHe comforts us by himself and also His Strength us made perfect in our weakness. God strengthens you when you are weak in that addiction, in that attitude that seems difficult to overcome. Just like humans are there to tame the kitten till she becomes a matured cat, so does God takes care of you, tamed you until you become an adult who then comforts others and point them to the saving power of God. Sometimes what you are going through may not be good to you but its good for you because I know as it is written that “all things work together for good….” Give it to him today and you’ll be glad you did…..